Okay, so now that you’ve lost your virginity you’re a transformed man. Overnight you have become a sexual dynamo with the ability to make women orgasm just by whispering in their ears.
Hmm… Good fantasy, but not quite.
“But wait!” you say. “My girl says I’m good in bed! She likes when I do the spelling out the alphabet thing with my tongue…” If this is the extent of your sexual prowess, we’re here to help you.
If you want to be a good guitar player, you pick up a guitar, take lessons, follow along in a book and practice what you’ve learned. Why is it that people don’t do the same for sex? (aside from the fact that there aren’t “lessons” offered legally in most areas…) Being good at sex is a skill, a valuable one at that. But people rarely treat it like that. Wouldn’t you like to be a better lover?
Time to study up.

G-Spot Orgasms

“Why would I want to soak my sheets?” you might ask. What is the value of giving your woman a squirting (G-Spot) orgasm? The simple answer is that this is usually the most powerful type of orgasm a woman can have (the other contender being the anal orgasm in most women). We can also assume that most women have not had a squirting orgasm before, and that if you (her already awesome boyfriend/date) can do this for her, than she will be more than appreciative (plus, unlike a clitoral orgasm, this is not likely something a woman can give herself — she needs you).

You can be the great lover she talks about the rest of her life.

I personally recommend a product that Steve DeAmore put out a few years ago, called White Tiger Tantra, which teaches a G-Spot orgasms using massage therapy techniques (see sensual awakening link below).

Links:
http://www.sensualawakening.com/
http://www.nerve.com/regulars/ididitforscience/femaleejaculation/index.asp?page=1

Dirty Talk? Really?

Women are different from men (I know: you’re shocked). They need to be emotionally and psychologically stimulated before they can really become physically turned on. This is why women have fantasies; why romance novels account for millions of dollars in annual sales; and why women generally don’t watch as much mainstream pornography as men do.
If you came to me a few years ago and said that talking dirty to a woman in bed would turn her on, I would have said you had been watching too much porn. But since I’ve started introducing dirty talk with partners, I’ve been amazed at the positive reactions. It’s a super effective way to create an exciting, charged sexual atmosphere.
Links:
http://www.masterful-lover.com/dirtytalk.html
A Women’s POV: http://www.tinynibbles.com/dirtytalk.html
http://essentialdatingtips.blogspot.com/2007/12/how-to-introduce-it-after-years-of.html

Don’t Be a Minute Man…
Tips on how to train your PC muscles and last all night (from someone else… Why should I write something that’s already been written quite well? Plus he links to some great stuff on topic) http://happybrainstorm.com/controlling-ejaculation-the-right-way/