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Some break-ups are not that bad, some are terrible, especially ones that occur because of things out of your control.  Emotions run wild, hate, anger, love, loss, loneliness, despair, hope, happiness and often cycle and repeat.  There is no definitive way to get over that heartbreak, but these ways can help and will make sure you don’t end up looking like a psycho/jackass/bag of douche.

• Be who you’ve always been. Think about who you are, would your normal self call your ex drunk and crying at 3am asking for them back? most likely not. When these uncharacteristic tendencies creep in, remind yourself who you are and what behaviour is typical of you. Even if you want them back, just continue to be YOU, turning into a whiny crying emotional bitch won’t do anything but reinforce the decision to split. Being composed, confident and strong will further make them question the breakup if that is what you want them to do.
• Take things that remind you of them and place these items in safe place out of sight. You are going to need some time to get over the reminders of  your ex. I’m sure they were a part of your life and now they are not, the less you have around to remind you of that part of your life the better. Don’t destroy those things, don’t throw them out, just put them aside until the heart has healed itself.
• Use this as time to start something new. Want to learn to play music? Sign up for lessons. Join a new gym. Be part of a rec sports league. The more you are out of the house and interacting the better. The worst thing you can do is sit home and wallow in your self pity, an added bonus is that you’ll be more likely to meet someone new.
• Cailean once said – “The best way to get over an old love is to get under a new one.” Now I’m not suggesting you go out on a heart breaking marathon or endanger yourself in any physical, mental or sexual way, but some physical contact with someone new can help with the heart break. Make sure you don’t mention anything about your recent ex nor should you lead the other person on. Be congruent with who you are.
• Take them out of your phone, take them off your messenger list, remove them from your sight. You’re going to get weak and call, text, email, msg something you regret, the less they are the the better off you’ll be and the less likely you’ll msg them.
• Don’t play the blame game and don’t let your ego get in the way. You are an awesome person, they are an awesome person it SUCKS for both people that you have to part ways but do so with grace and respect, regardless of the cause of the split. Speaking nothing but good words about them and do nothing but good actions with regards to the situation. Only little kids throw temper tantrums. Be an Adult.