I have always wanted to…

Sunset in the Jungle, something I have always wanted to see.

Whew, I almost ran out of content ideas, it can be a challenge sometimes to find a good topic to write about, especially since I’ve been super busy travelling the world. In the last 2 months I have been all over South East Asia doing somethings I have always wanted to do. Actually I have wanted to do these things since last Spring. Once they came to mind, I put together a plan, figured out the costs and then did everything I had to do to make sure they happen, now they are happening.

Stop number 3 has me at a Muay Thai training camp in Thailand, there are pro UFC fighters, World Champion Kickboxers and the like. On the other side of the coin there are are firemen, engineers, students, teachers, and store clerks. They realized that training Muay Thai was something they wanted to do and they are doing it, not to be the next UFC champion, but simply because they wanted the experience and the excitement that travel and learning can bring. These people have boyfriends, girlfriends, wives, husbands, jobs, children, loan payments, cars, homes and family back home. They come from places like Siberia, Germany, England, Brazil, Usa and beyond, some are wealthy some are poor, regardless they are here, getting the most out of the time they have. They stopped looking for the “no” (I can’t because of __________) and found the yes.

Meanwhile there are people sitting at home, constrained by their ideas, limitations of their minds they’ll come across someone that has travelled the South China, that has climbed the highest mountain in Europe, took salsa dancing in Rio or learned Russian in Moscow. They’ll say how much they have always wanted to do something like that but couldn’t because their favourite colour is orange or they like gold fish or some other reason that doesn’t really matter.

Why Gender Matters

As you’ve already figured out I put a lot of energy into personal growth and development, reading, seminars, workshops as well as writing and teaching. Every so often I come across a program or book that is mind blowning-ly  awesome. This is one of those books.

Why Gender Matters

Regardless of your age, your gender or your views on sex you should read this book. It will help explain why and how you think as well as provide one of the greatest insights into the thoughts and wiring of the opposite sex. The knowledge in this book will help your interaction with the opposite sex as well as the interaction with your own sex.

Synopsis

Are boys and girls really that different? Twenty years ago, doctors and researchers didn’t think so. Back then, most experts believed that differences in how girls and boys behave are mainly due to differences in how they were treated by their parents, teachers, and friends.

It’s hard to cling to that belief today. An avalanche of research over the past twenty years has shown that sex differences are more significant and profound than anybody guessed. Sex differences are real, biologically programmed, and important to how children are raised, disciplined, and educated.

In Why Gender Matters, psychologist and family physician Dr. Leonard Sax leads parents through the mystifying world of gender differences by explaining the biologically different ways in which children think, feel, and act. He addresses a host of issues, including discipline, learning, risk taking, aggression, sex, and drugs, and shows how boys and girls react in predictable ways to different situations.

For example, girls are born with more sensitive hearing than boys, and those differences increase as kids grow up. So when a grown man speaks to a girl in what he thinks is a normal voice, she may hear it as yelling. Conversely, boys who appear to be inattentive in class may just be sitting too far away to hear the teacher—especially if the teacher is female.

Likewise, negative emotions are seated in an ancient structure of the brain called the amygdala. Girls develop an early connection between this area and the cerebral cortex, enabling them to talk about their feelings. In boys these links develop later. So if you ask a troubled adolescent boy to tell you what hisfeelings are, he often literally cannot say.

Dr. Sax offers fresh approaches to disciplining children, as well as gender-specific ways to help girls and boys avoid drugs and early sexual activity. He wants parents to understand and work with hardwired differences in children, but he also encourages them to push beyond gender-based stereotypes.

A leading proponent of single-sex education, Dr. Sax points out specific instances where keeping boys and girls separate in the classroom has yielded striking educational, social, and interpersonal benefits. Despite the view of many educators and experts on child-rearing that sex differences should be ignored or overcome, parents and teachers would do better to recognize, understand, and make use of the biological differences that make a girl a girl, and a boy a boy.

Reviews:

“. . . a lucid guide to male and female brain differences. . .”
The New York Times

“Convincing. . . Psychologist and family physician Leonard Sax, using 20 years of published research, offers a guide to the growing mountain of evidence that girls and boys really are different. . . This extremely readable book also includes shrewd advice on discipline, and on helping youngsters avoid drugs and early sexual activity. Sax’s findings, insights and provocative point-of-view should be of interest and help to many parents.”
-New York Post

Check it out here – Why Gender Matters

Tynan’s speech: Not Taking Risks is Risky.

One of our favorites on our blog is Tynan. You might know Tynan from his role in the Neil Strauss book – The Game as “Herbal”. Since then Tynan has branched out into living life as all sorts of awesome.

Check out this video on why it’s important to take risks and why not taking risks will kill you.

http://www.vimeo.com/8985164

Facebook Profile Do’s

Want to show the fairer sex that you are an awesome guy?  Tweak your facebook/myspace display photos to show. Part tow in our display photo series will show you the do’s as opposed to the don’ts

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Show yourself doing something different, snowboarding, adventuring, camping, travelling. Women love men who cut a path of their own. Show that you aren’t scared to go out and engage the world.

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A photo of you and a few girlfriends works wonders, it says “I’m a cool guy and I have female friends. This is huge social proofing. Demonstrates that you are preselected by other girl, you must be a great guy. DO NOT, I REPEAT DO NOT post a photo of you and strippers, bikini models, hooters girls. This says the opposite about you.

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A photo of you and your mom. Your relationship with your Mom says a lot about how you treat a woman. Girls look for a man that is close with his mom. Make sure you caption the photo “me and mom on her birthday/my birthday/at grad/etc”. You don’t want them thinking you are into older women now do you?

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Show that you are good with kids, when looking for a suitable man kids comes in just as important as your mom. It shows you can be a leader, you can raise the next generation.  If it’s your kid well, good luck to you, I’m not sure how to proceed. Otherwise if it’s your niece, nephew, friends kid, etc make sure you label it as such, you don’t want the ladies thinking you come with a lot of baggage.

How to deal with Bad Things.

It’s the little things in life that make the biggest difference.

We work hard, go to school, meet the right person (or wrong person) and get married. We believe we have  control over our lives, that it is all self directed, I’m going to disagree.

We have control in the situations we are put in, absolutely and I believe ultimately we have the freedom to choose in any situation. What I don’t believe is that we have control over the little things in our lives that can make wild changes in our direction.

Earlier this year, a friend of mine was in Africa. While there she took a 2 day trip to the Indian Ocean, I advised her to stay an extra day and relax. She refused, stating that she needed to get back to her work and didn’t really need the extra time off, we bickered back and forth till finally she decided to stay an extra day. For what it was worth I’m not sure why I argued with her so much about staying longer, it really had no bearing on me and wasn’t really that much of a deal. The next day she awoke to learn that this was the bus she was supposed to be on.

Over half of the passengers were killed, including all of the people in the front of the bus, where her seat had been reserved.

Over half of the passengers were killed, including all of the people in the front of the bus, where her seat had been reserved.

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8 things you can do to drive her wild in the bedroom

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  1. Pull her hair – where her hair meets the back of her neck gently grab a handful of hair and slowly pull it. This taps into our primal days and will help arouse her. Do this when you are kissing for extra points.
  2. Take your time. When you start to kiss her, when you move to her nether regions, take your time don’t rush in, let the anticipation build, tease her, make her beg for you to enter her.
  3. Pin her down, use your weight and your strength to pin her hands to the mattress. Then ravish her, kiss her lips, her neck, etc. Once again tapping into the primal days.
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How to say you are sorry:

I date models is about relationships, all varieties and all types. With relationships comes loss, people will lose spouses, family, friends, even pets, death can be a difficult subject to deal with for both the supporting people and the people directly experiencing the loss. When faced with a friend or family member dealing a loss people often feel they should say something and it often comes out wrong: “I once lost my dog, cat, dad, I understand your loss”, “they are in a better place”, “they look so peaceful”, “they are with god now”, “I’m so sorry for your loss, they were such a good person”. My advice, never say any of these, none, ever, it’s not what they want to hear and it’s not going to help.

Here is what you say:

I cannot begin to imagine what you are going through, I am here for you if you need someone to talk to.

It’s simple, it shows you actually understand that you have NO idea what they are going through, because unless you are omnipotent, you have no clue and it also shows that you are not trying to make them feel better, you aren’t feeding them lines or canned comments they have heard over and over, it shows you are actually a person they can talk to whether it be about baseball, work or food, maybe they just need to think about something else for a while.

A Road Less Traveled – Highway Flirting

Take Your Game On the Road

Take Your Game On the Road

We sit in a bar completely engrossed in our conversation while everyone else is left to listen. We always seem to have competing stories when we get on “adventurous” topics and I’ll admit the score to date is still in her favour. The remainder of our friends often sit and drink in the ridiculous topic matter, or at least politely wait it out. Stephanie is an adventurous blond, a leader full of goals and ideals and yet is always open to having those challenged through intelligent banter. By all accounts she’s a catch: She knows how to flirt, she’s rarely reserved about any topics and she’ll put you in your place if she feels you’re out of line. Sometimes I wonder how it is that her and I met through this current network of friends – a politically charged group of young professionals who, though awesome in their own right, are far conservative on the social front than Steph and I. Steph is now off the market. In fact in three weeks I’m to play the music for her wedding service at a valley resort somewhere west of Halifax, Nova Scotia – and I couldn’t be happier for her.

“Oh, that’s called ‘Highway Flirting’”

Oh, it already has a title in Steph’s Book? Of Course. It was all I could think when Steph chimed in on my recount of a recent road trip adventure…

Xander’s “Choose Your Own Adventure” Part 2: Highway Flirting

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The Zone – By Apex

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The Zone
By: Apex

“Suddenly I was nearly two seconds faster than anybody else, including my team mate with the same car. And suddenly I realised that I was no longer driving the car consciously. I was driving it by a kind of instinct, only I was in a different dimension. It was like I was in a tunnel.” –Aryton Senna, 3-time Forumla 1 World Champion

There’s a feeling that everyone has. It is difficult to experience, and even harder to describe. It’s that moment where everything you do is almost supernatural – things happen before you make them happen, all your goals seem to achieve themselves, and you can’t be stopped. This is your flow, your zone, your state.

It’s amazing when it happens. You’re on top of the world and you can’t be stopped. Everything you set out to do seems to happen on its own, beyond your control. You’re operating at full throttle, but it seems like you can accomplish so much more. You’re a passenger on the ride to success, but you reap all the rewards. You’re “in the zone” and you can’t be stopped. Read the rest of this entry »

I Date Models – Do you have the skills?

Do you have the skills it takes to save the day?

Do you have the skills it takes to save the day?

Last night I mentioned to Mike an easy way to shine your shoes in a pinch he replies to me “man you know a bunch of random things like that, you should write a post with various tips for life”.

So here goes:

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