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For the Ladies – How to land Mr. Right this summer.
Jun 3rd
Most guys I know feel that they don’t need help with their game (they do, we all do), whether their game is used for meeting dozens of beautiful models or just talking to that one special girl we all could use a little help. On the other side of the coin women have a deeper understanding that they could use a little help landing Mr. Right, nearly once a week a female friend comes forward and asks me for some help. Here is IDM’s definitive guide to meeting and landing Mr. Right this summer.
Traditionally, meeting Mr. Right is more of a passive activity, this guide will focus on being actively passive. More or less, making sure you are putting the best ingredients together for him to approach.
Looks – Physical attraction is important, millions of years of evolution ensured that we are looking for a healthy mate that will produce viable offspring, even though we aren’t battling sabre toothed tigers those evolutionary bi-products are still there. You should look good when you leave the house, teeth should be clean and white, hair should be clean looking, clothing should be well fitting and feminine. Final message: You don’t want to leave the house looking like Sue Sylvester.
Health – More and more health is becoming important, start going to the gym, quit smoking and cut the sugar out of your diet. We don’t all want to date Marissa Miller, but we do want someone that cares about their health, you can be curvy, skinny or a big beautiful woman, but you should still be healthy. Final message: We don’t want you getting winded walking from the car nor do we want you blowing away on a windy day, we are looking for a life partner after all.
Confidence – I hear “I’m just an average girl” more than I can count. No one wants to date an average girl, no one wants to be average, just because you aren’t a Victoria Secret model that has a Nobel prize and Olympic medal doesn’t mean you are average. What average says to me? is you are willing to settle, you are bored with your life, tell me you are passionate, tell me you aren’t average, maybe you love Star Trek and love playing indoor soccer, that makes you unique. Instead of telling me you are just like everyone else (then why wouldn’t I want to date everyone else?) tell me why you aren’t like everyone else. Final Message – We want someone who is confident, motivated and happy.
Location – Not just for real estate. If you find Nerds sexy, chances are you aren’t going to meet them at some trashy downtown bar. If you want to meet a Doctor stop hanging out at Law School. What I’m getting at that you need to figure out what you are looking for in a man and then put yourself into the circle. Join a summer sports league, join a wine tasting group, join a guild of elves, really, it doesn’t matter what, but that you are actually taking a step forward to meeting the right person. Too many girls go to work, come home, go out with friends and that’s it, those are not ideal situations to meet Mr. Right. Final Message – You meet a guy that appreciates art at a gallery, not at a night club.
Stay tuned for part 2.
Learning, Quiting, and Sucking it up.
Mar 14th
So you want to learn to be a great pickup artist? decent at chess? to juggle? What happens when most people try to learn something new is that as time progresses it gets difficult and they don’t see the results they had built up in their head. Humbled that their dreams of being a Cirque de Soleil performer after 2 days of juggle have been crushed they quit dismissing it as too hard, impossible or not worth the effort.
Let me lay this out there first:
Things worth doing are hard, they are going to require effort and you are going to most likely have your ass handed to you numerous times until you start to succeed. Talk to anyone that is exceptional successful in their field and they will collaborate this theory.
Have a look at this graph (yeah, I know, it’s made in mspaint, but it’s here to get a point across, not to look pretty)
At the very start the difficulty of the skill shoots way up in difficulty, it will plateau and then as you become practised it will slowly decline until the difficulty is low. The red zone is the critical zone, this is where most people quit.
It’s too hard
I’m not seeing any improvements
It’s not worth my time
I don’t like it as much as I thought I would
etc.
In reality they haven’t given it enough focus, dedication and do not have enough drive. If you want to get good at something, continue, work hard (and smart) until it becomes easy.
Any stories of something you found difficult and have managed to become good or even great at? share them in the comment box below.
Tynan’s speech: Not Taking Risks is Risky.
Feb 20th
One of our favorites on our blog is Tynan. You might know Tynan from his role in the Neil Strauss book – The Game as “Herbal”. Since then Tynan has branched out into living life as all sorts of awesome.
Check out this video on why it’s important to take risks and why not taking risks will kill you.
How to deal with Bad Things.
Nov 29th
It’s the little things in life that make the biggest difference.
We work hard, go to school, meet the right person (or wrong person) and get married. We believe we have control over our lives, that it is all self directed, I’m going to disagree.
We have control in the situations we are put in, absolutely and I believe ultimately we have the freedom to choose in any situation. What I don’t believe is that we have control over the little things in our lives that can make wild changes in our direction.
Earlier this year, a friend of mine was in Africa. While there she took a 2 day trip to the Indian Ocean, I advised her to stay an extra day and relax. She refused, stating that she needed to get back to her work and didn’t really need the extra time off, we bickered back and forth till finally she decided to stay an extra day. For what it was worth I’m not sure why I argued with her so much about staying longer, it really had no bearing on me and wasn’t really that much of a deal. The next day she awoke to learn that this was the bus she was supposed to be on.
Over half of the passengers were killed, including all of the people in the front of the bus, where her seat had been reserved.
Last night I was driving in my car when Read the rest of this entry »
The Zone – By Apex
Sep 1st
The Zone
By: Apex
“Suddenly I was nearly two seconds faster than anybody else, including my team mate with the same car. And suddenly I realised that I was no longer driving the car consciously. I was driving it by a kind of instinct, only I was in a different dimension. It was like I was in a tunnel.” –Aryton Senna, 3-time Forumla 1 World Champion
There’s a feeling that everyone has. It is difficult to experience, and even harder to describe. It’s that moment where everything you do is almost supernatural – things happen before you make them happen, all your goals seem to achieve themselves, and you can’t be stopped. This is your flow, your zone, your state.
It’s amazing when it happens. You’re on top of the world and you can’t be stopped. Everything you set out to do seems to happen on its own, beyond your control. You’re operating at full throttle, but it seems like you can accomplish so much more. You’re a passenger on the ride to success, but you reap all the rewards. You’re “in the zone” and you can’t be stopped. Read the rest of this entry »
Act Outside The Box
Dec 9th
The success gurus would argue that most extremely successful people have at least one thing in common: they think outside the box. Tim Ferris would go further and say that they ACT outside the box.
Every time you do something that is outside of your comfort zone, you grow as a person. Your sphere of what you’re afraid of shrinks, and you gain a confidence and adaptability that you didn’t have before.
In The 4-Hour Workweek, Timothy Ferris talks about acting outside the box and how to gradually step outside your comfort zone, and even assigns Comfort Challenges to his readers. Here are two from his book you can try to get used to not acting like everyone else:
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“Success Leaves Clues”
Oct 16th
“Success leaves clues”
This simple quote changed my life.
I remember hearing Tony Robbins’ say this in his Personal Power II audio series, on my mp3 player. I was driving my motorcycle on a small back road in Vietnam, focusing on weaving in between the herd of water buffalo, so it didn’t really register when I heard it.
Top 10 Ways To Meet the Woman/Man of your Dreams:
Oct 3rd
I was walking to the store one day and happened upon a broken down bus full of Supermodels. They instantly realized that I was a really cool and unique guy, many of them professed their love for me, but alas I had to pick one. Out of the two dozen beauties, I chose the one I liked best, she was everything I had ever dreamed of, she loved beer, football and even enjoyed watching me play video games. I asked her to marry me, she said yes and since then everything has been perfect.
Unfortunately everything after “I was walking to the store one day” is not true. In fact life doesn’t work like that, because if it did we’d all be dating supermodels, and driving million dollar cars.
Together lets say it out loud: “my dream girl Is NOT Going to fall into my lap” furthermore nothing falls in your lap not your dream job, not your dream car, nothing you dream of. It’s going to take “effort” and “dedication” if you don’t think you have those then you should stop reading and head over www.collegehumor.com and waste some time watching pointless videos of stupid undergrads.
Still with me? Good. Relationships, Jobs, Life the list goes on. these things all have one thing in common. If you want a good one you are going to have to step out of your comfort level, you are going to have stop doing what you are doing and make something out of yourself. Grab your balls (or ovaries) and let’s go
10 ways to meet the person of your dreams:
- Are you a Runner? a Baseball player? Into cars? You probably won’t meet a person with similar interests at clubs and bars. There are too many people there and the odds are not stacked in your favour. So let’s stack the odds, how? By joining a community group, association, or a start attending events that are all related to what interests you. Meet someone that is interested in fine art at a art show, wine at a wine tasting, baseball at a baseball game. Sounds crazy doesn’t it? Oh wait, not at all. Read the rest of this entry »
Every one of us is in Las Vegas
Sep 22nd
We’re all in Las Vegas, right now. You, me, everyone.
The casino that we’re playing at has given each of us a very high bankroll to do with what we please. The agreement is that we don’t have to pay back what we lose, but we get to keep and enjoy everything that we win. Sounds pretty good, doesn’t it? What would you do, if you knew you had nothing to lose?
This is the mindset you need when going out to approach women.
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