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How to get over a break up.
Dec 26th
Some break-ups are not that bad, some are terrible, especially ones that occur because of things out of your control. Emotions run wild, hate, anger, love, loss, loneliness, despair, hope, happiness and often cycle and repeat. There is no definitive way to get over that heartbreak, but these ways can help and will make sure you don’t end up looking like a psycho/jackass/bag of douche.
- Be who you’ve always been. Think about who you are, would your normal self call your ex drunk and crying at 3am asking for them back? most likely not. When these uncharacteristic tendencies creep in, remind yourself who you are and what behaviour is typical of you. Even if you want them back, just continue to be YOU, turning into a whiny crying emotional bitch won’t do anything but reinforce the decision to split. Being composed, confident and strong will further make them question the breakup if that is what you want them to do.
- Take things that remind you of them and place these items in safe place out of sight. You are going to need some time to get over the reminders of your ex. I’m sure they were a part of your life and now they are not, the less you have around to remind you of that part of your life the better. Don’t destroy those things, don’t throw them out, just put them aside until the heart has healed itself.
- Use this as time to start something new. Want to learn to play music? Sign up for lessons. Join a new gym. Be part of a rec sports league. The more you are out of the house and interacting the better. The worst thing you can do is sit home and wallow in your self pity, an added bonus is that you’ll be more likely to meet someone new.
- Cailean once said – “The best way to get over an old love is to get under a new one.” Now I’m not suggesting you go out on a heart breaking marathon or endanger yourself in any physical, mental or sexual way, but some physical contact with someone new can help with the heart break. Make sure you don’t mention anything about your recent ex nor should you lead the other person on. Be congruent with who you are.
- Take them out of your phone, take them off your messenger list, remove them from your sight. You’re going to get weak and call, text, email, msg something you regret, the less they are the the better off you’ll be and the less likely you’ll msg them.
- Don’t play the blame game and don’t let your ego get in the way. You are an awesome person, they are an awesome person it SUCKS for both people that you have to part ways but do so with grace and respect, regardless of the cause of the split. Speaking nothing but good words about them and do nothing but good actions with regards to the situation. Only little kids throw temper tantrums. Be an Adult.
Women make me Nervous – Approach Anxiety
Nov 11th
I remember the feeling, it was my turn next. I raised my hand to state my intentions, everyone stopped and looked at me, the Halfpipe was easily 8 feet higher than anything I had ever ridden before. I had no choice, I had stated my intentions to the rest of the riders, I rolled down the slope toward the wall. As the speed built up I felt freed from the nervousness, I knew what I was doing, sure maybe this halfpipe was bigger than normal but the feeling was the same – excitement, nervousness and the rush of adrenaline. Before I knew it I was launched into the air, the board came up to meet my hand and I tweaked an big grab like I was an X-Games competitor. The rest of the ride through the halfpipe was relaxed and fluid. I knew what I was doing and the nervousness had faded. I can definitely say each time I stood before the 20 foot Superpipe in Whistler, British Columbia the nervousness was always there. As the season went on I became more and more comfortable with that feeling and I learned to embrace it.
So what does snowboarding have to with this website? Well Read the rest of this entry »
What’s The Worst That Can Happen?
Nov 9th
I’d like to share a story that I just heard told by Doc, a psychologist from Canada who specializes in Dating and Relationship advice. His version of “What’s the worst that can happen?” in an interaction with a woman he just met.
(I’ll paraphrase a bit)
I was in Boston on business with my brother and we thought we’d go out for a drink at a pub down the road. I went up to the bar to order a drink and I noticed the girl standing beside me was quite attractive. It was cold that night, so she had her sweater draped over shoulders and not on properly. So, being the playful flirty guy that I am, I grabbed the arms of her sweater, flung them around as I laughed and said, “hey you, where are your arms?” She looked at me with a sour look on her face and said “I don’t have any arms. I’m an amputee.” and showed me the stumps where her arms were. Ouch. Then her friends, who overheard the conversation, yelled at me, “what a jerk! How can you be so insensitive?!”
From behind enemy lines
Sep 23rd
I spent this past weekend behind the Bar at a local lounge. My girlfriend works there full time and they needed someone with bar tending experience to fill in while the owner was away partying and enjoying the fruits of his labour. Having spent some time managing a bar they knew I’d be able to integrate seamlessly for a few days so they asked me, I figured why not? I get to spend a little more time with her, I get to increase my social network, work on some routines as well as make a pocket money for myself, and hey, I’ll end up in a bars all weekend so why not get paid to do what I normally do?
Through extensive studying I have learned a lot about how people work, how they think and how they act, so I settled in behind the bar to watch how my girlfriend interacted with various tables, how patrons interacted with each other and what I could learn from this. From the very first second it was obvious to me that Mystery’s teachings (from the Mystery Method) as well as Neil Strauss’ book “The Game – Penetrating the secret society of pickup artists” were bang on. I’d watch guys lean in towards a girl and see the girl pull away, I’d watch as girls became interested in the “cool” males in the bar and give off unconscious signs such as touching their hair and changes in their body language. It was awesome just sitting there, mixing drinks, meeting people and watching and learning.
Now, let us focus on the main point of writing this article and that is “Game” or lack of it. We all have friends that have game, they are good with women and don’t know why, you might be one or you might not be, but you should read this either way, it’ll help explain how the whole dating/meeting girls scene works.
Every one of us is in Las Vegas
Sep 22nd
We’re all in Las Vegas, right now. You, me, everyone.
The casino that we’re playing at has given each of us a very high bankroll to do with what we please. The agreement is that we don’t have to pay back what we lose, but we get to keep and enjoy everything that we win. Sounds pretty good, doesn’t it? What would you do, if you knew you had nothing to lose?
This is the mindset you need when going out to approach women.
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