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Mar 7th
As you’ve already figured out I put a lot of energy into personal growth and development, reading, seminars, workshops as well as writing and teaching. Every so often I come across a program or book that is mind blowning-ly awesome. This is one of those books.
Regardless of your age, your gender or your views on sex you should read this book. It will help explain why and how you think as well as provide one of the greatest insights into the thoughts and wiring of the opposite sex. The knowledge in this book will help your interaction with the opposite sex as well as the interaction with your own sex.
Synopsis
Are boys and girls really that different? Twenty years ago, doctors and researchers didn’t think so. Back then, most experts believed that differences in how girls and boys behave are mainly due to differences in how they were treated by their parents, teachers, and friends.
It’s hard to cling to that belief today. An avalanche of research over the past twenty years has shown that sex differences are more significant and profound than anybody guessed. Sex differences are real, biologically programmed, and important to how children are raised, disciplined, and educated.
In Why Gender Matters, psychologist and family physician Dr. Leonard Sax leads parents through the mystifying world of gender differences by explaining the biologically different ways in which children think, feel, and act. He addresses a host of issues, including discipline, learning, risk taking, aggression, sex, and drugs, and shows how boys and girls react in predictable ways to different situations.
For example, girls are born with more sensitive hearing than boys, and those differences increase as kids grow up. So when a grown man speaks to a girl in what he thinks is a normal voice, she may hear it as yelling. Conversely, boys who appear to be inattentive in class may just be sitting too far away to hear the teacher—especially if the teacher is female.
Likewise, negative emotions are seated in an ancient structure of the brain called the amygdala. Girls develop an early connection between this area and the cerebral cortex, enabling them to talk about their feelings. In boys these links develop later. So if you ask a troubled adolescent boy to tell you what hisfeelings are, he often literally cannot say.
Dr. Sax offers fresh approaches to disciplining children, as well as gender-specific ways to help girls and boys avoid drugs and early sexual activity. He wants parents to understand and work with hardwired differences in children, but he also encourages them to push beyond gender-based stereotypes.
A leading proponent of single-sex education, Dr. Sax points out specific instances where keeping boys and girls separate in the classroom has yielded striking educational, social, and interpersonal benefits. Despite the view of many educators and experts on child-rearing that sex differences should be ignored or overcome, parents and teachers would do better to recognize, understand, and make use of the biological differences that make a girl a girl, and a boy a boy.
Reviews:
“. . . a lucid guide to male and female brain differences. . .”
The New York Times
“Convincing. . . Psychologist and family physician Leonard Sax, using 20 years of published research, offers a guide to the growing mountain of evidence that girls and boys really are different. . . This extremely readable book also includes shrewd advice on discipline, and on helping youngsters avoid drugs and early sexual activity. Sax’s findings, insights and provocative point-of-view should be of interest and help to many parents.”
-New York Post
Check it out here – Why Gender Matters
Jan 14th
Want to show the fairer sex that you are an awesome guy? Tweak your facebook/myspace display photos to show. Part tow in our display photo series will show you the do’s as opposed to the don’ts

Show yourself doing something different, snowboarding, adventuring, camping, travelling. Women love men who cut a path of their own. Show that you aren’t scared to go out and engage the world.

A photo of you and a few girlfriends works wonders, it says “I’m a cool guy and I have female friends. This is huge social proofing. Demonstrates that you are preselected by other girl, you must be a great guy. DO NOT, I REPEAT DO NOT post a photo of you and strippers, bikini models, hooters girls. This says the opposite about you.

A photo of you and your mom. Your relationship with your Mom says a lot about how you treat a woman. Girls look for a man that is close with his mom. Make sure you caption the photo “me and mom on her birthday/my birthday/at grad/etc”. You don’t want them thinking you are into older women now do you?

Show that you are good with kids, when looking for a suitable man kids comes in just as important as your mom. It shows you can be a leader, you can raise the next generation. If it’s your kid well, good luck to you, I’m not sure how to proceed. Otherwise if it’s your niece, nephew, friends kid, etc make sure you label it as such, you don’t want the ladies thinking you come with a lot of baggage.
Dec 26th

Some break-ups are not that bad, some are terrible, especially ones that occur because of things out of your control. Emotions run wild, hate, anger, love, loss, loneliness, despair, hope, happiness and often cycle and repeat. There is no definitive way to get over that heartbreak, but these ways can help and will make sure you don’t end up looking like a psycho/jackass/bag of douche.
Nov 26th

This Week we are featuring a Guest Post from Hans Comijn.
The Source of Attraction and The Paradox of Love
In my quest for beauty, my desire to celebrate and be immersed in female energy, I often wonder what it is in women that I love so much. I travel a lot with Zan, and when asked “What is it you miss the most during your travels?” the answer for me goes along the lines of “a place of rest… with a woman who comforts and nurtures me”. As Zan puts it, “My head on a woman’s breast, with her caressing my hair and telling me everything will be all right…” And I wonder… could it be that this image describes the essence of a woman – she nurturing me, the traveller, taking care of me, providing a place where I can lay my head to rest… is that the core of female energy?
I also wonder if my traveling is the essence of male energy.
Nov 18th
Dinner. Meet for drinks. Grab a coffee. Catch a movie.
I’ve done these, and whatever combination they come in but never with a whole lot of luck. Then I started doing these:
Picnic at a supermarket. Hiking around railroad tracks. Grabbing a ride on a ferry. Or a dusk-time walk through a graveyard… and have had some incredible results.
Nov 5th

One- itis – (from urban dictionary) The dreaded “One-Itis,” otherwise known as the ailment of liking that “One Special Girl” and wanting her more than any other woman on earth. A want so intense, that it’s actually painful.
This happens to the best of us. We meet a girl, we become friends and we fall in love with them. The girl, unbenounst to you, sees you as a friend and just a friend, but you want more. Here is where disaster strikes, you decide to do something romantic, something you’ve seen in a movie, you show up at her door, floors and love ready to be professed You cook them a magical dinner and light candles. Awkwardness strikes and you ruin your friendship and you still have that love for your “one special girl” and you are left out in the cold.
Back in my undergrad I met my “one special girl”, I worked my way into the friend zone and then one night showed up at her door in a suit with a rose and declared my love for her. She shot me down and I put my tail between my legs and went home sad, like the chump that I was.
Fast forward a few years and we are living together and madly in love. Here are the top ten things that help me land the girl of my dreams.
Apr 11th
Q & A about T & A
You may have heard your whole life that there is no such thing as a dumb question. Well, those people lied. I had a huge number of dumb questions appearing daily in my email inbox at Cailean@idatemodels.com. I don’t wish to bore myself or my readers with your stupidity. I will, however, take this opportunity to address two of the more interesting email questions I have received over the past couple of weeks. Please keep in mind that I am a single woman approaching the holiday season, therefore, my social calendar is filling up quickly. I don’t have the time to address every email but I will do my very best to reply to comments left below!
That being said…
Mar 17th
Okay, so now that you’ve lost your virginity you’re a transformed man. Overnight you have become a sexual dynamo with the ability to make women orgasm just by whispering in their ears.
Hmm… Good fantasy, but not quite.
“But wait!” you say. “My girl says I’m good in bed! She likes when I do the spelling out the alphabet thing with my tongue…” If this is the extent of your sexual prowess, we’re here to help you.
If you want to be a good guitar player, you pick up a guitar, take lessons, follow along in a book and practice what you’ve learned. Why is it that people don’t do the same for sex? (aside from the fact that there aren’t “lessons” offered legally in most areas…) Being good at sex is a skill, a valuable one at that. But people rarely treat it like that. Wouldn’t you like to be a better lover?
Time to study up.
Nov 13th
The city I live in feels like a cozy village with only around 370,000 individuals. It’s kind of like Cheers where everyone knows your name, (except here you were wishing most of them would forget it.) Lately though, the city seemed to have been magically reduced to only two individuals. Him and Her.
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