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How To Pick Up a Girl Online
Feb 8th
We’ve previously covered the Do’s and Do not’s of profile photos. This applies from everything from Facebook, LinkedIn, Myspace as well as any dating website. As our world moves online more and more people are busy and turning to free dating websites like http://www.plentyoffish.com and pay for use sites like http://www.match.com . Whether you are paying for the service or not you want to make sure that when you do send a message that you get a response. We recently set up a fake profile on Plenty of Fish to see what type of messages the average attractive girl receives. Read the rest of this entry »
Facebook Profile Don’ts (same for Myspace, Dating Profiles and the like)
Dec 28th
An example of photos you should not have in your profile. Stay tuned for a part 2 with Facebook profile do’s.
First of all your display photo speaks volumes.
Sunglasses inside, macho cool guy stance, popped collars, sideways hats. The world has a douche bag alarm and people are running for cover.
Gang signs. Look gentlemen, it’s obvious you are not in a gang. It’s also obvious that you can’t just stand there and have your photo taken comfortably so you need a crutch to hold you up, unfortunately throwing up a gang sign makes you look like a complete tool. Where is your popped collar?
Anything with your shirt off. Especially if you are by yourself cause we know 2 minutes before this photo was taken you were talking about how you need a new display photo for your profile and you want to show people how ripped you are and what colour a boiled lobster looks like.
Stay tuned for how to do it right.
How to pick up women – A Video
Oct 13th
We stumbled across this video on the intersphere. Watching this guy with the hidden camera is great, he demonstrates confidence and inner comfort which the women respond to right away. Of course Doctor Phil demonizes this guy from the get go but he redeems himself in helping shy guys meet girls.
His secrets? Once again, confidence and comfort.
You can check your ego at the door though, you don’t need to be egotistical and self loving to be confident and comfortable, although it’s a tough tray to balance.
Worth a watch.
A Road Less Traveled – Highway Flirting
Sep 13th
Take Your Game On the Road
We sit in a bar completely engrossed in our conversation while everyone else is left to listen. We always seem to have competing stories when we get on “adventurous” topics and I’ll admit the score to date is still in her favour. The remainder of our friends often sit and drink in the ridiculous topic matter, or at least politely wait it out. Stephanie is an adventurous blond, a leader full of goals and ideals and yet is always open to having those challenged through intelligent banter. By all accounts she’s a catch: She knows how to flirt, she’s rarely reserved about any topics and she’ll put you in your place if she feels you’re out of line. Sometimes I wonder how it is that her and I met through this current network of friends – a politically charged group of young professionals who, though awesome in their own right, are far conservative on the social front than Steph and I. Steph is now off the market. In fact in three weeks I’m to play the music for her wedding service at a valley resort somewhere west of Halifax, Nova Scotia – and I couldn’t be happier for her.
“Oh, that’s called ‘Highway Flirting’”
Oh, it already has a title in Steph’s Book? Of Course. It was all I could think when Steph chimed in on my recount of a recent road trip adventure…
Xander’s “Choose Your Own Adventure” Part 2: Highway Flirting
How to Have Fun… Anywhere
Aug 29th
This Way to Adventure
I’m ditching scripts – if you didn’t gather from the first post, I’m going au’naturel – and I’m having a lot of fun doing it, though it can be scary as hell…
Hi, I’m Xander
Jul 27th
"Hi, I'm Xander"... Yup, works here too
The lines, the timing, the plays, the moves, the rules… The Game
I’m out. Since when did “Meeting People” become so scientific? And for what benefit? Now you have “formulas”, pre-established “routines”, graphs of attraction and “openers” – when do you plan on being you?
Woah, woah, woah… “be you“? Did a writer on IDM just say “be yourself“? He did, and hear him out, because he’s about to introduce you to your inner Jedi… sit back, throw away the “play book” and for the love of God don’t take any notes, just do it instead!
Relationship Questions and Answers – Cailean’s Pov
Apr 11th
Q & A about T & A
You may have heard your whole life that there is no such thing as a dumb question. Well, those people lied. I had a huge number of dumb questions appearing daily in my email inbox at Cailean@idatemodels.com. I don’t wish to bore myself or my readers with your stupidity. I will, however, take this opportunity to address two of the more interesting email questions I have received over the past couple of weeks. Please keep in mind that I am a single woman approaching the holiday season, therefore, my social calendar is filling up quickly. I don’t have the time to address every email but I will do my very best to reply to comments left below!
That being said…
Women make me Nervous – Approach Anxiety
Nov 11th
I remember the feeling, it was my turn next. I raised my hand to state my intentions, everyone stopped and looked at me, the Halfpipe was easily 8 feet higher than anything I had ever ridden before. I had no choice, I had stated my intentions to the rest of the riders, I rolled down the slope toward the wall. As the speed built up I felt freed from the nervousness, I knew what I was doing, sure maybe this halfpipe was bigger than normal but the feeling was the same – excitement, nervousness and the rush of adrenaline. Before I knew it I was launched into the air, the board came up to meet my hand and I tweaked an big grab like I was an X-Games competitor. The rest of the ride through the halfpipe was relaxed and fluid. I knew what I was doing and the nervousness had faded. I can definitely say each time I stood before the 20 foot Superpipe in Whistler, British Columbia the nervousness was always there. As the season went on I became more and more comfortable with that feeling and I learned to embrace it.
So what does snowboarding have to with this website? Well Read the rest of this entry »
What’s The Worst That Can Happen?
Nov 9th
I’d like to share a story that I just heard told by Doc, a psychologist from Canada who specializes in Dating and Relationship advice. His version of “What’s the worst that can happen?” in an interaction with a woman he just met.
(I’ll paraphrase a bit)
I was in Boston on business with my brother and we thought we’d go out for a drink at a pub down the road. I went up to the bar to order a drink and I noticed the girl standing beside me was quite attractive. It was cold that night, so she had her sweater draped over shoulders and not on properly. So, being the playful flirty guy that I am, I grabbed the arms of her sweater, flung them around as I laughed and said, “hey you, where are your arms?” She looked at me with a sour look on her face and said “I don’t have any arms. I’m an amputee.” and showed me the stumps where her arms were. Ouch. Then her friends, who overheard the conversation, yelled at me, “what a jerk! How can you be so insensitive?!”
Improve your body language: Part 1
Oct 16th
Envision for a moment, a cat ready to pounce on a bird, how do we know it’s not just laying down? From the coiled muscles ready to unleash on it’s prey we can tell it’s ready to strike. We know if a dog is friendly or not and we can tell when our friend/girlfriend/mom is pissed off at us by the way they hold themselves.
Most people don’t generally have an awareness of how they are using their body language. They allow their emotions and natural instincts to express themselves freely. This is a good thing for you! Why? Well, we can learn to read people and how they are feeling and we can adjust our body language/expression/tone to them.
So here is your first assignment as a student of having a better life. I want you to head to a cafe or local night spot and just sit and watch a few groups of people see how they interact and watch their body language and facial expressions. Are they having fun? Are they angry? Sad? Mad? Nervous? Here are some clues to get you started:
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