please, please, please go on a date with me? No? pleeeeease?

Would you like me to kick you in the shin?

The 99% of people would say a definite “NO” to this answer. I mean who really wants a kick in the shin?

What if I rephrased the question, would people say yes to a kick in the shin?

Would you prefer a kick in the shin or a punch in the face?

Instantly we’ll have the other 99% of people request a kick in the shin.

This all stems from a sales technique – “Don’t give people the option you don’t want them to choose.”
In this technique you learn to ask people either or questions or you assume the answer then then give them a “when” question. When applied to dating it can communicate confidence as well as weed out any chance for her to say no.

Here is how it works – “We should grab a coffee sometime, what day works best for you?” – Here you have assumed that the answer to grabbing a coffee will be yes and you’ve given them the option to set time.  By asking an open ended question it makes it difficult and socially awkward for the person to say NO unless the ultimately think you are a creep they will respond with a day and time they are free and then you can go from there.  Ultimately an attractive girl will be approached thousands of times in her life and as she doesn’t have the time to meet all thousand guys for coffee she has developed an automatic “no” response, using this style of asking will ensure that her automatic “no”  will be averted and she will actually get the chance to meet you.