Q & A about T & A

You may have heard your whole life that there is no such thing as a dumb question. Well, those people lied. I had a huge number of dumb questions appearing daily in my email inbox at Cailean@idatemodels.com. I don’t wish to bore myself or my readers with your stupidity. I will, however, take this opportunity to address two of the more interesting email questions I have received over the past couple of weeks. Please keep in mind that I am a single woman approaching the holiday season, therefore, my social calendar is filling up quickly. I don’t have the time to address every email but I will do my very best to reply to comments left below!
That being said…

Q: I am very pretty, smart and independent. I normally don’t have a problem meeting men, but all they seem to want is a physical relationship. What am I doing wrong?

A: This is a bit of a tricky question. There are many reasons why a man would only want a physical relationship with you… Do you sleep with him on the first or second date? Do you pursue him? Do you dress slutty and then wonder why men don’t take you seriously? Did you answer by nodding ‘yes’, ‘yes’ and ‘yes’?
Well, I don’t want to get a bunch of hate mail after this, believe me, I have had my fair share of nights dressing slutty during a night out at the clubs. (My girlfriends and I blame it on ovulation). Sad to say though, a lot of men still believe in the old double standard. They are encouraged to screw around and are often patted on the back for sleeping with a variety of people but they definitely don’t want a girlfriend who does. And if he meets a beautiful woman who is hard to get, he’ll pursue her like VIP tickets to the Stanley Cup playoffs.
Here’s my advice, take it or leave it: Save the make-out session for the 3^rd or 4^th date. I know it’s hard but try your best. Build a friendship with him. Cut it off after 2^nd base and wait to see if he asks you out again. If he calls for another date, you’ll know he’s really into you. If you never hear from him again, cut your losses and remember it’s not your fault, but you might want to reconsider the guys you are choosing to go out with. There will always be guys who only want to sleep with you. You are fabulous, why wouldn’t they?! Just remember that if he really wants YOU and not just your hot bod, he won’t mind waiting. And if he’s really boyfriend material, he’ll respect your mind AND your body.

Q: My girlfriend never wants to sleep over at my apartment. She sometimes comes over late, has sex with me and then makes an excuse to leave in the middle of the night. What do you think is going on?

A: How do I put this delicately…? She is not your girlfriend. You are her bootie call! Have you talked about your relationship? Are you even sure you have one? Does she consider you her boyfriend? Has the word “boyfriend” and your name ever appeared in the same sentence? Sorry if this sounds cruel but I really like this girl! It’s not very often I get mail from MEN wondering why a girl won’t spend the night with him.
Do you enjoy the sex? If so, here’s my advice, take it or leave it: consider yourself lucky. You are the object of a woman’s sexual affection. This doesn’t happen very often. You must be very sexy. And if you are enjoying the sex but want a little more of an emotional connection, explain it to her. Tell her how you feel. If she is still only into it for the nookie, tell her you need more and go find a girl who likes to sleep in… with you!

Come see me again next Tuesday! I have a secret to share…